Want to know the absolute best thing about getting older? Well, here it is: your children begin to forgive you. Seriously, that is the apex, the ultimate, the top-drawer best thing.
I always felt I was in essence, the only parent my two children had. If anything went wrong – they forgot an assignment, their hearts got broken, they fell off a bike, they had a virus or ear infection – whatever it was, I was to blame. It was my fault. I was the only parent and I was responsible for what happened and for their feelings about it all. Yes, that is a lot of guilt for one person and I took on the entire hodful of that guilt. And I don’t have to tell you that as kids grow up, there are piles of things that go wrong! (There are also piles of things that go right – awards won, mates found, job success achieved, and so on. However, these things they earned on their own. I was not responsible.)
Now they are not children, they are my adult offspring. And as they grow and mature and have a sense of time and a perspective that only a few years can provide, they are beginning to see things a little differently – and they are beginning to FORGIVE and to love with that forgiveness. It’s the best thing about getting older – watching this happen and feeling the sense of a complete circle of maturing emotions. Ah, the process of life – how I savor it!